Having great people by your side in the build up to your wedding and on the day itself makes everything so much more enjoyable and relaxing. Your bridal party is absolutely key because bridesmaids, ushers and best men all have their own roles to play and a wedding just wouldn’t be the same without them.
So, I’ve put together a series of guides that recap their main responsibilities that you might even like to share with them once they’ve accepted the job!
Today we’re starting with arguably one of the most important roles in the bridal party, whether you choose to have 1 or 10 by your side…!
Help! What does a bridesmaid do?
Being asked to be a bridesmaid is wonderful and it’s the perfect excuse to spend more time with one of your best friends! Bridesmaids traditionally helped the bride on the wedding day itself but nowadays, you’re able to be involved in some of the very best bits of the build-up to the big day. Here’s my guide to your most important bridal party duties…
Shopping – oh yes, there’s a lot of shopping involved when you become a bridesmaid. As well as shopping for your own outfit, you might like to offer to help the bride find her dress too. Honest yet kind opinions are what’s required here and don’t forget to find the best spots for coffee and cake before you go too so you can take some time out if you need.
Organising – the much fabled ‘hen do’ is definitely the responsibility of the bridesmaids so it’s up to you to organise a great weekend for the girls. You’ll need to know who’s on the guest list and then plan something that everyone will enjoy and your friend will remember for all the right reasons!
Helping – if you’re a whiz with spreadsheets or a queen of craft, there are certainly things you can do to help your friend in the run up to the day. If there’s something you know you can do, offer to help and remember that even collecting suits from the hire shop or delivering decorations to the venue in the days before the wedding can take a huge weight off the bride and groom.
Calming – there’s no doubt that you’ll be doing plenty of this and just being there for your friend when she’s stressed or nervous is really important. On the night before the wedding, why not arrange a quiet dinner or a relaxing evening for you all and be prepared to enforce a curfew so everyone looks their best on the big day.
Understanding – planning a wedding can be all consuming at times and it may feel like that’s all your best friend is talking about is “The Wedding” but a little patience and understanding can go long way and if and when it’s your turn she’ll want to return the favour
More Organising – on the morning of the wedding, take charge. Make sure the bride has eaten breakfast, everyone is having their hair and make-up done and is ready in plenty of time. Pack the bride’s overnight bag or emergency kit and look after any flower girls or mini-maids. It’s going to be a busy day but you can make it brilliant.
So as you can see, having a bridesmaid by your side can provide the greatest of support and so many fun times. If you’re deciding who to ask, make sure you pick someone who you feel will really be there for you and bring their own skills to the table. If you’ve just been asked to be a bridesmaid, all you really need to do is be there for your friend. Don’t assume you know what they’ll need- ask how you can be a support first- and then not only will you be a key part of an amazing day, the memories will strengthen your friendship.
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